Well, that’s easier said than done. I’m sure that’s what you’re saying to yourself. You want to have a baby but it just doesn’t seem to be on the cards so you worry and wonder about whether it will happen for you.
Firstly, take a step back and consider how long it has been since you started trying to fall pregnant. Has it been six months? Has it been a year? If it has been more than a year since you started trying to conceive then you may need the help of a fertility specialist. You and your partner will need to undergo a few tests to determine what the cause of the infertility may be. Once the cause is determined action can be taken. The doctor will be able to tell you what fertility treatment will suit your situation. It will be up to you whether you and your partner want to proceed with the treatment.
This process can also be stressful and you may fall into the trap of worrying. You start thinking about the “what ifs”. But you have to stop yourself. If you have any questions it is best to get it out of your system and tell your fertility specialist about it. Ask them everything about the treatment process so that you can settle your mind. Speak to your partner if you feel overwhelmed. Remember that they are going through it with you so they also have their own questions and feelings to contend with. Speaking to each other can make you feel better in knowing that you’re not alone on this journey.
The two of you could also join a support group. It’s important to know that you’re not the only ones in this boat; there are other people who are going through the similar emotions and circumstances that you are going through. Other couples may have had infertility for a long time so they have the experience and will have some wisdom to share with you. As they’ve been through it they will be able to guide you through the fertility process and give you some advice as to what may have worked for them or how to deal with the emotions. They can also just be a shoulder to lean on to help you to cope when you feel like it’s taking too long. Remember that the fertility treatments can affect couples differently. Some may fall pregnant on the first attempt while for others it may take longer and a few attempts. It is best not to give up and to speak to your fertility specialist about what you’re going through so that they can guide you as you take on the fertility process.
The key is to remain as calm as possible and to avoid stressful situations. The desire to have a baby can be so overwhelming that it becomes your every waking thought. Get involved in other activities or hobbies to take your mind off it so that you can have a rested and calm body; ready for conception.